Detachment invites you to let go of beliefs, beings, guilt and resentments, live in the present, cultivate forgiveness, remove burdens linked to fears and insecurity and let flow everything that adds up to an authentic, free and light life.
Detachment is a concept created from the idea of detachment, a verb that accounts for a detachment , distancing or distancing in matters of interest or affection .
Those who recommend putting detachment into practice in everyday reality assure that one lives better, with more freedom and with fewer burdens if one does not develop emotional attachment . Not "attaching yourself" to ties or objects and learning to let go of the past and everything that does not contribute to generating tranquility and fulfillment in the present , say the defenders of detachment , leads to better adaptability and gaining independence , for example.
To achieve emotional autonomy , specialists in emotions, behaviors and thoughts point out, it is advisable, first of all, to strengthen self-esteem , have personal motivations , work on acceptance , know oneself internally and achieve both mental and emotional balance so that external stimuli do not have an impact. nor do they condition – seriously or deeply – individual decisions, feelings or actions.
Features of detachment
Detachment at the level of human ties, those that are forged between relatives, friends and loved ones, should not be interpreted as a sign of lack of love , disaffection or disinterest , but as the decision and willingness to form relationships that are based on mutual understanding. , respect , tolerance and freedom .
From the perspective of certain creeds, religious doctrines and spiritual currents, detachment is the way, or the solution, to embrace spiritual well-being , inner peace and serenity in all aspects. For this reason, in Hinduism it is encouraged to live in the here and now (that is, the present moment ) with responsibility and an active attitude without allocating energy to attachment to material things, in addition to encouraging getting rid of worries and thoughts concerning the future. past or future. Buddhism , meanwhile, understands that it is essential to incorporate detachment (not clinging to anything or anyone) and cultivate gratitude if you long for happiness without ties or conditions.
Advantages and disadvantages
Gathering enough courage to modify behaviors, habits and lifestyles in pursuit of a detachment that leads to breaking chains and achieving a certain distance from beings, situations or elements in order to clarify ideas and think objectively is part of a long process and, almost always, complex and difficult.
To advance along the path of detachment requires will , determination , courage , perseverance and patience because just as there are advantages , obstacles and disadvantages also appear.
Detachment encourages you to lead an independent life, in freedom and without letting the emotions or views of others condition, impact or influence in any way personal decisions or choices.
This practice, considered by those who propose it on a global scale because they are convinced of the benefits it brings, is a great resource to face, understand and cope with losses; helps not to fear loneliness ; It allows you to get rid of toxic or harmful ties and attracts happiness .
Detachment , according to theoretical guidelines, promotes authenticity and encourages freedom from ties that only cause submission , dependency , pressure and frustration every time one's own or others' expectations are not met.
This concept does not imply having to renounce all ties and material goods , but rather it pushes us to become aware of the way in which one relates with the purpose of understanding that we live better, and lighter, when we lack obligation, the need or mandate to have (or want to) control and possess as much as possible.
Of course, it is advisable to reach a balance to obtain a healthy detachment , since an excess of intention to achieve material detachment or to trust in self-sufficiency can generate negative consequences. It is not good to reach the limit of social isolation or choose to close in on oneself without being able to establish or maintain personal ties, express emotions, etc.
Human beings are not robots: although it is advisable to lead a simple, peaceful and untethered life , we must also show empathy and commitment at a collective level and satisfy basic needs .
Detachment classes
There are multiple types of detachment . Learning to recognize what each one consists of favors choices and decisions aimed at what to do to try to live better and fully .
Emotional detachment , specifically, is worked on by making an effort to distance oneself and separate oneself as much as possible from ties and situations. It is not about insensitivity or stopping (or canceling) emotions , but the proposal is to prevent the state of mind or personal dispositions from being dominated by what one feels, in addition to encouraging the enjoyment and use of the present without needing the someone's approval or reaction to be happy.
Detachment proposes living without clinging excessively to anything or anyone, not depending on any object or individual to be happy and being able to fulfill oneself personally and professionally with freedom, security and autonomy.
Digital detachment , meanwhile, alludes to a necessary practice in times of such technological dependence . The objective of this strategy is not to completely renounce the use of electronic devices, but to give yourself a break to take care of your mental health by minimizing the levels of stress and anxiety that increase, for example, when you live pending virtual communications, publications. on social networks, mobile phone notifications, etc.
Detachment from expectations , detachment from results and material detachment are other categories that call for appeasing the ego , not to live pending what others will say and not to get attached to things, ideas, illusions, people or hopes, among others.