Anger that persists over time is known as resentment.
Resentment is resentment that persists over time. The person who shows resentment towards another is usually classified as spiteful .
For example: "I feel a great resentment towards my father for everything he did to my mother" , "Stay calm, I don't hold a grudge against you" , "There is a lot of resentment in people who, for years, have been waiting for a solution from from the leaders and never receives a response .
persistent anger
It is possible to associate resentment with anger that persists as time passes. When experiencing resentment, the subject has not yet forgiven the person who caused him displeasure or irritation . In this way, every time something appears that leads you to think about the situation that motivated your anger, you will feel resentment and act accordingly.
Resentment is considered to be an unhealthy feeling for those who feel it inside, as it can lead them to hate, to want to take revenge and make their entire life revolve around that feeling. Therefore, it is advised that what should be done in this situation is to try to put an end to it.
Resentment appears when someone cannot forgive someone who caused them pain or discomfort.
How to leave resentment behind
To leave resentment behind, it is suggested to put into practice a series of useful tips such as these:
-Realize that by having a grudge you only suffer and are causing pain to yourself.
-You have to let off steam, express that feeling to be able to "free yourself" from it. And that is something that can be done by writing it down, telling it to someone you trust, or even going to an appointment with a psychologist.
-It is necessary that the person who feels this resentment decides to put an end to it, turning the page, not thinking about the past again and only looking forward.
-It is also important that this individual becomes aware that he has to be "selfish" and think about his well-being, which will lead him to realize that what he feels is not good for him, quite the opposite.
Some examples
Sometimes, resentment disappears in a short time . That is the case of a man who gets angry with a friend because he took a job that he also aspired to. After a few days of anger and resentment, he finally understands that it was not an action taken against him and accepts the situation.
Other times, however, the grudge remains for many years , even until death. Suppose a child is sexually abused by a family member, who is covered and protected by the rest of the family. As time passes, this child becomes an adult full of resentment towards the abuser (who was never punished) and towards his family in general (who did not encourage his punishment). Despite attending therapy and trying to forgive those who are judged responsible for their pain, the individual is unable to leave the resentment behind even if decades pass.
Movie "Grudge"
In addition to all of the above, we cannot forget the existence of the Spanish film "Rencor", which was released in 2002 and is directed by Miguel Albadalejo.
It is a drama that tells the story of a woman who one day meets the one who was the great love of her life, a man who caused her great pain and on whom she wants revenge. The actress Lolita played the protagonist and won a Goya award for that role.