Loss of motivation, discouragement and hopelessness are signs of heartbreak.
Characteristics of grief
Heartbreak is what a person feels when they cannot lessen the burden of sadness . Faced with certain facts and situations, an individual may not find a way to overcome the affliction : that desolation implies heartbreak.
It should be considered that sadness is a primary emotion . It arises with the natural development of human beings, beyond any context. Although it is usually considered a negative emotion, sadness is necessary since it leads us to pay attention to what we feel and contributes to reflection .
When a subject is sad, he analyzes the traumatic event and produces alternative thoughts that allow him to integrate what he experienced into his story. Thus, over time, he manages to reorganize his behavior, adapting to the post-traumatic reality. That is why sadness, in short, makes it possible to assimilate a loss , recover after damage and learn from mistakes, for example.
The problem appears when the distress does not lead to action and the process of overcoming it . With grief, it is impossible to imagine solutions or look for alternatives to what hurts intensely. Someone who is heartbroken, in short, cannot move towards a new stage of greater calm or emotional stability.
Overcoming grief means leaving despondency and pessimism behind.
Its causes
Discomfort can have various causes. The loss of a loved one (with subsequent mourning ) is one of the most common reasons because it is a very painful and irreversible event. An illness (own or someone else's), a romantic breakup , unrequited love, failure, and financial difficulties can also cause heartbreak.
It is important to keep in mind that the same event can be the source of grief for one person but not for another. This is because the personality and psychological tools of each individual are different, so the processing of experiences and their effects are not the same.
Take the case of a divorce . Someone may be heartbroken with the separation , feeling that they will never overcome that distance that involves abandoning a stage and starting over. However, another subject may understand that distancing from the partner was necessary to feel good.
Psychotherapy can help you get out of grief.
Symptoms of heartbreak
Heartbreak can present various symptoms. Of course, oneself can express being heartbroken about something; In any case, it is possible to recognize various signs that reveal this state in those who do not express anything about their interior.
The heartbroken subject appears listless and melancholy , has problems with attention and concentration, and usually does not want to do physical exercise. His behavior is characterized by a lack of motivation , even rejecting activities he previously enjoyed.
Insomnia , lack of appetite, and irritability are other possible symptoms of heartbreak. Those affected by discomfort may also feel physically tired or that their body is "heavy."
As we already indicated, there is a disconsolation that is part of the terrain of what can be considered "normal." It is logical that someone who suffers the death of a family member feels, at first, that there is no consolation. However, the passage of time allows us to grieve , accept what happened and adapt to reality. On the contrary, if the grief continues indefinitely, it is necessary to consult with a psychologist to analyze the situation.
If the emotional discomfort takes on certain characteristics, the specialist can diagnose depression . In this case, it is already a mental health disorder that requires professional attention because it affects the quality of life and can even lead to death.
How to overcome it
It is important to live with heartbreak when it is inevitable and learn to overcome it to move forward. In this sense, it is possible to take into account several important questions.
On the one hand, it is necessary to be patient with yourself . It is difficult to assimilate losses, failures or disappointment, so you have to give yourself the essential time to accept and process what you have experienced. On the other hand, taking care of your health is key to preventing anxiety from affecting the body, or at least minimizing its impact. Exercising, resting and eating healthy is essential.
Seeking support and help to overcome obstacles is also key. It is positive to escape loneliness and surround yourself with people with empathy and compassion to obtain the comfort that is required. This can be found in family, friends, co-workers, neighbors or religious groups, for example. Therapy with a psychology expert is also a valid alternative.
It must be clear that, even if suffering seems intolerable and insurmountable, you can always move forward . There are methods, mechanisms and processes that help leave heartbreak behind and rebuild.